Self Love

Okay, girls and boys...there is the pleasurable self love that you can do alone with yourself...and that is all fine and good.  Enjoy!  However, that is not what I am going to talk about today.  Aww!  I know.  We will address this topic another day. 

Loving self is probably the most difficult life challenge for most of humanity.  We have been taught to believe that we come into the world as sinners, as wild beasts, as untamed spirits.  Even our parents and caregivers sent us messages either directly or indirectly that we were not good enough, not smart enough, lazy, stupid, inferior, not deserving, and worthless.  Lies!  All a bunch of lies and illusions and delusions!  Unfortunately, those beliefs were programmed into us at a young age.  Even if we don't believe these lies consciously, we do resonate with these beliefs on an unconscious level.

We were created perfect and in the image of our Creator.  Something cannot be created in the image of perfection and not be perfect!  However, most of us do not truly believe we are perfect and made from pure love on an unconscious level.  This is the most important level to believe something.  If truth does not resonate at the unconscious level, it does not matter what you believe consciously.  You vibrate at the frequency of your unconscious beliefs.  That is what runs your life.

You have all heard this before that you cannot love and accept another person as they are until you completely love and accept yourself as you are.  This is where lots of the drama in relationships begin.  One or both partners cannot accept and love something in the other.  Arguments, blaming, ugly comments, distancing, making excuses to avoid intimacy, and so forth begin to riddle the relationship.  In relationships, we are just looking into the mirror of self.  What we see reflected back to us is who we believe we are.  If you don't like what is being reflected back, it is your responsibility to change.

Disrespecting or running away from someone you love because of your own issues with self love and acceptance in no way assists you in your spiritual growth.  You will just have to repeat the process with someone else until you learn the lesson of self love and acceptance.  That's no fun!  Plus, you may have just walked away from the love of your life.  How sad is that!

So, in addition to playing with yourself for pleasure, spend some time really examining the early messages you were sent in your youth  Are these unconscious beliefs getting in the way of a special relationship?  Are you always attracting partners who can't love and accept you for who you are?  This is about you...not them.  What in you do you not love and accept?  It will only be reflected back to you in intimate relationships.

And that's the naked truth!