Physical Attraction

Yes, eye candy is nice.  It's like looking at a beautiful sunset or a majestic mountain or a mesmerizing waterfall.  About 1% of the population (statistical fact) is born with a physically "perfect" body.  I am one of the normal ones in the 99% group.  Glad I am not one of the freaks in the 1% group!  lol! 

We are wired to be attracted to beauty.  Fact.  So when we see it, we take pause, gawk, etc.  However, we have been programmed by the media and mags and friends to believe that beauty is narrowly defined.  There is beauty in everything.  You just have to look for it sometimes.

I like nice looking men just like any woman.  I like a man with a nice body just like any woman.  Would I be so shallow as to blow him off if his body wasn't perfect or his face wasn't exactly the type I like?  It depends.  I have to find something about the guy that physically attracts me...his eyes, smile, arms, hands, voice, ass...and then his intellect, his mannerisms, the way he thinks, his kindness.  I like a nice combo of physical attraction with other personal characteristics.

I went out with a guy who was serious eye candy and he thought I was hot, too.  We were physically attracted to each other.  The sad thing was...nothing in common!  We had little to talk about.  It was kinda empty.  I can't date empty men who are just physically attractive and nothing else.  Doesn't work for me.

Now, I believe a man can do that.  Men don't like to talk much anyway.  They just like to gawk at beauty and then fuck it.  That sounds crude!  Not all men are like that, I know.  But it makes my point.  Physical attractiveness is SO important to a man.  They are very visually wired. 

For a woman, other things can be attractive about the guy - like how successful he is and how he wines and dines her can make him very attractive to a woman even though he may look as ugly as a dog.  Look at Bill Gates and Donald Trump - ugly men!  I don't think enough money could make me go out with men that ugly.  I would walk away from money for physical attractiveness....I think.

What is more shallow - money or physically attractiveness?  Actually, shallowness depends on you.  If you are a shallow person and make decisions based on surface matters...well, that's shallow.  However, if you are a person of depth and make your decisions based on truly important  reasons...then it is not shallow to want someone with money or who is physically attractive.  Examine your reasons.  Do your reasons have depth and importance?  If so, go for it.

And that's the "naked" truth!

Slow Seduction

There is an art to seduction that I am learning through trial and error...mostly error.  It is not about the end result, but the process that is key to acquiring your end result...whatever that might be.  Seduction requires incredible amounts of patience...a quality I have poorly lacked in the past.  Maybe that is why these lessons in seduction are so painful.  I am having to learn patience!  Dang it!

I am the type that tends to want it now.  In the last couple of years, I have received many lessons in patience.  Because of these lessons, I am a more patient person - in general.  However, I still have a ways to go when it comes to patience in romance and specifically seduction.

My head is clogged with a head cold at the moment so I am not thinking clearly...in fact, I am thinking quite slowly.  Hmmm....could this be a key to slow seduction...thinking slowly?

Okay girls...most of you have been there.  You meet a guy you really like.  You want him damnit!  But you blow it because you move too fast, give in too early, act too desperate, call too many times...blah, blah, blah.  By the way, men do the same thing sometimes - if they really like the woman.  They just can't contain their need and want and excitement for her.  All are guilty. 

Patience is the answer...simple patience...waiting with a calm expectation that all will turn out as you wish.  Easier said than done.  We want to control the situation to speed it up a bit.  Well, that just messes everything up.  It really does.

Slow and steady, as the say, will get you where you want to go.

And that's the "naked" truth!

Self Love

Okay, girls and boys...there is the pleasurable self love that you can do alone with yourself...and that is all fine and good.  Enjoy!  However, that is not what I am going to talk about today.  Aww!  I know.  We will address this topic another day. 

Loving self is probably the most difficult life challenge for most of humanity.  We have been taught to believe that we come into the world as sinners, as wild beasts, as untamed spirits.  Even our parents and caregivers sent us messages either directly or indirectly that we were not good enough, not smart enough, lazy, stupid, inferior, not deserving, and worthless.  Lies!  All a bunch of lies and illusions and delusions!  Unfortunately, those beliefs were programmed into us at a young age.  Even if we don't believe these lies consciously, we do resonate with these beliefs on an unconscious level.

We were created perfect and in the image of our Creator.  Something cannot be created in the image of perfection and not be perfect!  However, most of us do not truly believe we are perfect and made from pure love on an unconscious level.  This is the most important level to believe something.  If truth does not resonate at the unconscious level, it does not matter what you believe consciously.  You vibrate at the frequency of your unconscious beliefs.  That is what runs your life.

You have all heard this before that you cannot love and accept another person as they are until you completely love and accept yourself as you are.  This is where lots of the drama in relationships begin.  One or both partners cannot accept and love something in the other.  Arguments, blaming, ugly comments, distancing, making excuses to avoid intimacy, and so forth begin to riddle the relationship.  In relationships, we are just looking into the mirror of self.  What we see reflected back to us is who we believe we are.  If you don't like what is being reflected back, it is your responsibility to change.

Disrespecting or running away from someone you love because of your own issues with self love and acceptance in no way assists you in your spiritual growth.  You will just have to repeat the process with someone else until you learn the lesson of self love and acceptance.  That's no fun!  Plus, you may have just walked away from the love of your life.  How sad is that!

So, in addition to playing with yourself for pleasure, spend some time really examining the early messages you were sent in your youth  Are these unconscious beliefs getting in the way of a special relationship?  Are you always attracting partners who can't love and accept you for who you are?  This is about you...not them.  What in you do you not love and accept?  It will only be reflected back to you in intimate relationships.

And that's the naked truth!

The Man Craving...

I hate it when that happens!  You know girls...you can just taste him.  You are so hungry for a guy...any guy...well, almost.  For me, it's like this craving to just kiss and kiss and eat him up!  Lol!  It does feel like a food craving.  You want to be filled.  Well, that's the feminine sexual essence for you.  She needs to be filled and fed with life and love and sensuality and a man's depth and his...(edit).

Very symbolic.

Everything about a woman and a man's body is symbolic of how we exist in the world.  A man is "out there" and experiences the world from the outside.  A woman is internal in her nature and experiences the world from within.  The world enters her.  For a man, he must enter the world.  All of nature is feminine.  A guy who craves being out in nature all the time or golfing is really craving that feminine energy in his life.  Women who are very directional and business oriented all the time are using their work as a male sexual substitute. We use sexual substitutes all the time.  Women use food as a sexual substitute to be filled.  Our pets and our children can become our sexual substitutes...not in a perverted way...but as a way to fill that deepest part of our yearning for love from a depth that only someone of the opposite sexual polarity can give you.

Careful with sexual substitutes.  They drain your sexual energy so that you have none to give when the right man or woman comes along.  For example, a man can use attractive "female friends" as a sexual substitute when he is in between relationships or not wanting a committed relationship.  He will just drain away that sexual energy so that you have none left for a guy who really does want what you want.  We women unknowingly do this to ourselves when we spend lots of time with male friends.

The masculine cannot live without our energy.  They crave us way more than we crave them.  We crave a man's depth and direction.  We want a man who is not afraid of our ocean of emotion.  We want a man that can shift our bad mood with humor and deep love...passionate love.  We hate it when we are in a bad mood and the man runs and escapes into his man cave, tinkers in the garage or goes and plays golf or some other avoidance mechanism!  WE HATE THAT!  Why?  Because he is afraid of our goddess power.  In our hearts and minds he is being a wimp!  And that angers the goddess within us.  We need a man who will stand up to our emotions and power and not wimp out on us.  We can't trust a man who runs.  When we can intimidate a man with our moods we cease to trust him.  He is not a strong man in our eyes.  The feminine needs the strong masculine to keep her contained.  She is the ocean.  He is the boat on the ocean.  She can swallow him whole in a second! 

That's why, girls, we just lose it for confident and cocky types.  Those guys aren't afraid of us.  If they are, they don't show it.  A good man, though, is confident around a strong woman because he respects her power and knows how to handle her moods with confidence   We CRAVE that confidence in a man!  Men like that... love like that and we crave that kind of loving...don't we girls?  Confident lovers are a very sexy turn on for the feminine goddess.  Yum!

And that's the naked truth!

Bad Boys and Smart Girls

Bad boys and smart girls...never the twain shall meet? 

Oh, they meet alright in odd and interesting ways when they are older and out of high school.  There is usually an immediate attraction because the two are opposites...that polarization process of "opposites attract" is going on.  Do they know this?  No!  Smart girl is now more into her looks and bad boy has had some success in life and maybe read a book or two.  He married trophy bride model with no brains and realized how boring she really was out of the bedroom.  Smart girl married sensitive intellectual guy and realized how boring he was in the bedroom.  Divorce.  Now they are looking for something different.  Am I right or what?

Going through school I was a "geek" girl...the smart one who always sat at the front of the class and made good grades and studied every night...really!  I loved school.  I loved learning.  I loved cute boys, but they seemed to have no interest in me....or so I thought.

I recently dated a guy that could be considered a "bad boy" or maybe the "player" type.  What I realized was that in our youth - like high school - the bad boys probably secretly liked the smart girls and the smart girls absolutely drooled over the bad boys...but each group had their delusional mis-perceptions about each other.  The bad boys didn't think the smart girls were interested in them because these boys didn't think they were smart enough.  The smart girls felt too geeky looking to think a bad boy would go for them.

We all secretly want what will balance us.  I didn't care for geeky smart guys.  They didn't have the look I liked and they were not very confident, but that is who I usually attracted.  The bad boys, on the other hand, were hot looking and exuded a confidence that was attractive.  They had the confidence I lacked and I had the smarts they felt they lacked.  Neither group dared take the risk of talking to the other for fear of rejection.  So, we secretly longed for each other...is my thinking on this.

Now, twenty or more years later, we meet at a club, on-line, at a bar, wherever...right?  He doesn't know I was the smart geek girl in school and I don't know he was a hot bad boy in his younger years.  An attraction develops pretty quickly.  Bad boy is intrigued with intellectual smart girl.  Smart girl is intrigued with confident hottie.  Why?  It triggers unconscious desires and memories of our youth.  What we wanted to experience at that time but never had the guts to go for.

So, smart girl falls for bad boy and his confidence.  Bad boy is intellectually hooked on smart girl.  He loves the deep conversations and she loves that he is even interested.

But wait!  Bad boy has always attracted the hot girls with little brains. He is familiar with those show girls.  Smart girl has always attracted the intellectual geek guys who cared more about her thoughts than what she looked liked.  Problem.  Bad boy loves her brain and is attracted to her intellect, but she is not a show girl like he is used to.  Smart girl is very attracted to confident bad boy, but not used to his lack of refinement and need for a show girl.  Oh brother!

Where do we go from here?

Time to grow up!  This is what should have happened in our youth had we had the guts to go for it.  When we are young, we are flexible and can accomodate.  Had bad boy and smart girl hooked up in high school, they would have worked it out because the patterns of dating certain types would not have been so set yet.  It would have been a match made in heaven.  The balance would have been struck.

However, meeting later in life and trying to find that balance can be more of a challenge because we have patterns we are fighting against...unconscious patterns over many years of attracting certain types.  It can get in the way of a match made in heaven.  Ego and judgment take over instead of compassion, understanding, and unconditional love.

Will the two ever be as one?

Yes, it is very possible.  How?  Each has to accept and honor the others differences.  It is the differences that are actually most attractive in this relationship.  The differences are the balance.

And that is the "naked" truth!

Married But Separated...I Don't Think So!

Lately I have been meeting men on-line or in clubs who first say they are divorced but on closer interrogation, they are married but separated...or so they say!  What's that about?  You are either married or you are not.  Period.  This in between thinking about divorce does not count!  It's like these men are testing the waters to see if there is an excuse to get divorced.  And I don't want to be their excuse and I have made that very clear in two particular instances.  In fact, I have just told them to call me back when the divorce is final.  Done.  I don't play those games.  Not fair to the other woman...my sister in spirit.

This happened to me.  My husband at the time was married (to me) when he met his now girlfriend...who he moved in with while still married to me.  Granted our marriage was on the rocks, but that was no excuse.  He was married.  Clearly that was of no importance to him or his girlfriend.  I am sure he told her the same story...almost divorced...that was a lie.  We had just separated for healing purposes to save the marriage.  I guess he already had something else in mind.  She was his excuse to actually divorce.  Not good girls!  Don't get involved in a married couples struggles by being the excuse for him to leave his wife.  It will come back to bite you in the ass one day...like you may be the next victim.

So, just don't do it.  Make it clear to the guy that you do not date low lifes like that.  If it is meant to be, he will find you after his divorce.  In this way your potential relationship is free and clear of negative karma.

And that's the "naked" truth!

Live Life Like a Relaxed Expectation Orgasm

Attracting a Mate

Looking For Just One Good Man!

Hey all you single ladies!

Is this our anthem or what?  That's right!  We just need one!  Why is it so hard to find him?

My suggestion:  CREATE HIM!

Yes, you can!  Make a list of 20 attributes you must have in a man.  Then cross out 5 of them.  Focus your intention and belief on those 15 attributes you wish to find in a man every day.  You will begin to notice that men will come into your life with some but not all the attributes.  This lets you know that your manifestation is working.  Go back to the list and refine it over time.  You will notice that some attributes were not all you thought they'd be when actually expressed in a man. 

And let me know when he arrives in your life girl!

So, you want to know my list...hmm...okay...but just know it changes from time to time.

Strong Masculine Essence
Handsome and attractive
Present - emotionally and otherwise
Intelligent with depth
Spiritual
Successful - financially and personally
Has direction in life
Respects women and all of life
Chivalrous - opens doors and does what a man should do for a woman
Sexy, sensual, passionate, romantic, intimate - loves to touch and be touched
Well "hung" - hey, it is important girls!
Generous
Physically healthy and in good shape - takes care of his body and what he puts in it

That's not quite 15 but good enough...just typing that list makes me drool!
Damn I am hungry for some good man!  Yum!

And that's the "naked" truth girls!

Sexual Fantasy Man

Now it's time for less geeky stuff and more juicy "naked" stuff.  Are you with me girls and boys?  Do you have a sexual fantasy man girls?  I do.  He's actually from the recent past.  A REAL man, who has now become my sex fantasy!  Lol!  Now, you may have more than one...that's okay.  Depends on your mood, right?

It's not like men who have a fantasy girl for each day of the week like we girls had embroidered panties with the days of the week on them...remember?  Lol!  Anyway, men love variety.  We just like ONE GOOD MAN.  ONE GOOD MAN is all we need, right ladies?  No need for variety when one man is able to give you all you need.  Men don't get this.  For a man, every woman is different and strange and exotic.  That novelty is what turns a man on.  This is why a man needs, wants, and craves variety.  You can give him everything he wants in bed, but that does not mean he won't fantasize about some girl at work, some girl he saw at a club, some girl in a magazine, some girl driving down the road, some girl who just smiled at him at Starbucks, some girl he knew from way back when, and/or just some girl walking by.

Girls, you gotta get this.  It's important.  Men get bored with you no matter how hot you are or how good you are in bed.  If you don't change things up for them and dye your hair some new color, change your makeup, dress differently, wear a costume every once in a while, then...he will stray...in his mind or in real life.  Now, men stray for several reasons...boredom and because you are being a real unloving bitch to him. Men are actually quite sensitive creatures.  They really need your gentle touch and smile and feminine energy to keep them happy.  They actually just need your sexual energy.  That is what really gets a man going.  Your radiance is very sexy to a man....a serious turn on.

This is why men love younger women.  Younger women have a natural youthful radiance about them.  Their sexual energy is always on and flowing nicely.  These young things haven't been married with kids, divorced several times, boring career and just tired of life yet.  Life can really drain your radiance girls.  When this happens, doesn't matter what kind of face and body you have, no man will find you that attractive.

What to do?  Well, you always have sexual fantasy man, right?  He can only do so much.  I know.  So, how to get your radiance groove back...several ways.  I will cover a couple here, but this is not an exhaustive list.  Don't laugh, but prayer and meditation is one of the best ways to get that radiance back.  Yes girls!  I know you think I am just crazy for always bringing up spiritual matters and sex.  Well, they go hand in hand.  I am trying to unbrain wash you!

Radiance comes from Spirit.  It's that amazing life force energy that flows through all of us.  When a woman gets in touch with her deep spiritual side and falls in love with her Creator like her Beloved...wow!  You will glow like a radioactive thingy-ma-jiggy!  Breathing while meditating on higher thoughts and spiritual matters will do the same thing.  Breathing oxygenates the blood.  Breathing with purpose to bring more radiance into your body is even better!

Do everything with INTENTION.  I will blog about that important topic later.

Back to breathing. You can breath that Kundalini energy awake by visualizing breathing into the 2nd chakra (orange) that is located right below your navel (belly button for those who have problems locating their anatomy).  This is the sexual energy center of the body...the creative center.  If it is closed, shut down, spinning the wrong direction - then you probably have creativity and sexual blocks in your life.  This can happen for many reasons that I won't go into here.  You know who you are.  I would suggest going to an alternative practitioner who can open and balance your chakras.  You can also do it yourself with intention, focus and meditation.  But if you have never done something like this before, go to someone the first time.  They can teach you.  There is a wealth of knowledge on the internet as well.  Just google Chakras and you will get an explanation about each one and what it represents and how each energy center effects your life.  I will talk more about chakras in other postings.

So, you got your radiance back. Great!  How do you keep it?  Well, don't waste it on men who just want to use your sexual energy as their sexual substitute but are unwilling to commit to you in a real relationship.  Men can suck this energy right out of us.  They thrive on this energy.  It gives them energy and power to conquer their world.  That is why they say that behind every great man is an even greater woman.  There is serious truth to that.  It's that woman's energy that makes that man so great.

So, you give it to a worthy man who respects you and puts you first in his life.

Many men who "play the field" get this energy from those young things they meet.  A man and woman do not have to actually have sex to exchange and give away this energy.  When you are attracted to someone and they are attracted to you, that energy is flowing between the two of you.  If you are on a simple date with a guy and things are going well, you are sending him this energy.  He may or may not be sending it back.  Over time, being around too many men and having them drain this energy from you is exhausting and ages you.  I feel for you girls that have to work with all men.  You are at a big disadvantage in that your radiance is constantly being sucked out of you by all those leering men....especially if you are an attractive woman.

One more way to get that radiance back...spend lots of time in the company of other women...good women who lift your spirits and are spiritual themselves.  Hang out around other radiant women.  Being around the goddess energy will fill you back up with the goddess energy men have drained from you.  Spending too much time with men...even male friends...not good.  They cannot give you that goddess energy.  Find a woman's group you resonate with and get your radiance groove back.

Now you see why men love the idea of harems?  A man walks into a room of young attractive women who think he is attractive and boom...he is hit with all this intense sexual energy.  He is on top of the world...life is good...he can conquer anything.  Where do you think the idea of a "club" came from?  Most club owners are men and their goal is to get as many "hot" girls to their club as possible because that draws in the men who spend the money on the girls to get the sexual energy fix they need and want.  This is the reason porn and topless bars and dance bars are such a big business.  These are all sexual substitutes for men.  Very harmful to men and women alike because they disrespect the sacredness of our sexual nature and they can become addictive.

You are being used at these clubs girls...wake up!  I know they can be fun...just limit the amount of time you spend in those places.  They can be spiritually harmful after a while.

And that is the "naked" truth!

Morning Geek!

I am such a geek! I woke up all excited about the fact that I can text to my blog anytime!

OMG! It's 7am and I am sitting out on my balcony overlooking a sweet greenbelt texting from my phone!

I do have my challenges with texting to my blog...like being unable to add a title. So I will have to go back in and modify later.

And for the purposes of efficiency and timeliness, the rules of punctuation, grammar, and capitalization may be ignored. I apologize now to all you editors out there that hate the bad writing habits texting is developing in our youth. Well, at least you know your jobs are secure for the future!

Okay, let's see if this entry will post as one complete post. You know how texting programs will sometimes cut your long text into several texts. I hate that!

Independence Day Geek!

Saw the 4th of July fireworks on Town Lake in Austin, Tx with a friend. Had great seats right below the fire light show. Going to Opa's for some coffee now at 11PM. Testing to see if i can actually text to my blog.  If this works, dear god!  And yes, I am texting at a fireworks display!  So!

Okay, so that was last night.  I am now editing this post from my computer.  Wow!  I am going to be seriously dangerous now that I can text to my blog anytime, anywhere, for any reason.

Texting friends, it's good bye to all of you.  Thanks for assisting me in my times of boredom and texting me endlessly for hours.  I now have a new love, texting to my blog.  I can text forever!!!!  Oh, the "naked" bliss of it!

Ta-ta!

I Like It Rough!

Don't we all like it rough sometimes, girls? Yep, we do. Why? Some of us just love the drama more than the boy...the man...who ever...I have a girlfriend struggling with this. We like it rough in all kinds of ways. Makes life interesting and not so boring. Gets us out of our heads and into our bodies or vice versa. The feminine loves the dance of being in life and experiencing it even if it is rough at times. But we create it. No one to blame but our own choices.

And then there is the "fun" kinda rough...you know what I mean. Can't play that game with just anyone. That game has to be played with a man you can trust - really trust. Hard to find a guy like that. Most men are just players. You can never trust a player. They will tell you what you want to hear just to play the game. They are out for themselves to get that next sexual high and release. You are just the tool they use to get there. Girls, you aren't tools...don't play that kinda game with a player. You will always lose.

However, if you do find that special man you can really trust, then why not! Experience all you can when you have that kind of connection with a guy. The high you can get from that connection is so worth it. Takes your experiences to a more profound, may I say, spiritual level. Yes, that's right - spiritual level. The sexual connection is the way to experience "god" when the bond is pure and based on love and complete trust. Nothing else like it. Most people are still asleep and haven't realized that the most powerful way to connect with the sacred is through the use of sexual energy. You can even transcend the physical plane during an intense sexual experience. There is a lot written out there about this. This is nothing new or new age. Egyptian culture understood this thousands of years ago. All great civilizations knew this. There were actual temples of worship headed by Priestesses who knew the spiritual art of using Kundalini energy to connect with Spirit through sacred sexual acts.

Our world has been perverted with lies about sex being evil and bad and wrong. Yes, there are instances where the use of this power is abusive...when it is used for selfish reasons where deceit and no love is involved in the union...like sex with a "player" who just wants one thing. This is damaging to you and to him on an energetic and soul level. The sexual act is always sacred, but so many have been made to believe it is not. It is sacred and should be treated as such. To truly receive the spiritual benefits that sexual union has to offer, one must share this act within a loving and trusting union of commitment to one's lover and partner. This act cannot be shared with several sexual partners at a time...it dissipates the energy between everyone and no one benefits. The trust is lost when such an act is spread to several partners. This is why, I believe, most religions state that it is a "sin" to have sex with someone outside of marriage. What they are saying is that this is a sacred act which should be shared with one special soul at a time, not used for selfish purposes...physical highs and releases...at the expense of the other sexual partner.

Men tend to disrespect the sex act more than women. Women need that emotional connection. Men don't. They just need a willing woman. What men don't realize is that they are hurting themselves on a spirit/soul level...and hurting every woman at the same time. One selfish sexual act harms the whole of humanity. Its sounds harsh but true. All choices have a consequence that effects the whole because we are all energetically connected..connected to our Creator. When a man disrespects a woman sexually by deceit...making her believe she means something to him when she really doesn't, he is hurting the feminine goddess that connects all of life. One act feeds more evil acts...this is why pornography, child sexual abuse, sex slavery, and so forth is so rampant. There is no difference energetically between a man who rapes and a man who deceitfully uses a woman for sex. It is all the same and causes just as much damage spiritually to our world.

Women need to stand in their power and not allow this abuse. We are just as much to blame, girls, when we allow ourselves to be used. The sexual act is sacred and we as women are the bearers of this truth. We need to respect our sacred sexual power and only share it with a truly deserving man we can trust who has a loving and open heart. In this way, we are giving light to humanity through each sacred act of sex. The energy that is created, if intentioned well, can heal the world!

If you are in a loving and committed spiritual relationship with someone, use it for the betterment of humanity. Set clear intentions for the love you create with your partner and be of those who send healing energy out to an ailing world.

And if you like it sacredly rough, you go girl!

Ha!

The naked truth girl!