Live Life Like a Relaxed Expectation Orgasm

Attracting a Mate

Looking For Just One Good Man!

Hey all you single ladies!

Is this our anthem or what?  That's right!  We just need one!  Why is it so hard to find him?

My suggestion:  CREATE HIM!

Yes, you can!  Make a list of 20 attributes you must have in a man.  Then cross out 5 of them.  Focus your intention and belief on those 15 attributes you wish to find in a man every day.  You will begin to notice that men will come into your life with some but not all the attributes.  This lets you know that your manifestation is working.  Go back to the list and refine it over time.  You will notice that some attributes were not all you thought they'd be when actually expressed in a man. 

And let me know when he arrives in your life girl!

So, you want to know my list...hmm...okay...but just know it changes from time to time.

Strong Masculine Essence
Handsome and attractive
Present - emotionally and otherwise
Intelligent with depth
Spiritual
Successful - financially and personally
Has direction in life
Respects women and all of life
Chivalrous - opens doors and does what a man should do for a woman
Sexy, sensual, passionate, romantic, intimate - loves to touch and be touched
Well "hung" - hey, it is important girls!
Generous
Physically healthy and in good shape - takes care of his body and what he puts in it

That's not quite 15 but good enough...just typing that list makes me drool!
Damn I am hungry for some good man!  Yum!

And that's the "naked" truth girls!

Sexual Fantasy Man

Now it's time for less geeky stuff and more juicy "naked" stuff.  Are you with me girls and boys?  Do you have a sexual fantasy man girls?  I do.  He's actually from the recent past.  A REAL man, who has now become my sex fantasy!  Lol!  Now, you may have more than one...that's okay.  Depends on your mood, right?

It's not like men who have a fantasy girl for each day of the week like we girls had embroidered panties with the days of the week on them...remember?  Lol!  Anyway, men love variety.  We just like ONE GOOD MAN.  ONE GOOD MAN is all we need, right ladies?  No need for variety when one man is able to give you all you need.  Men don't get this.  For a man, every woman is different and strange and exotic.  That novelty is what turns a man on.  This is why a man needs, wants, and craves variety.  You can give him everything he wants in bed, but that does not mean he won't fantasize about some girl at work, some girl he saw at a club, some girl in a magazine, some girl driving down the road, some girl who just smiled at him at Starbucks, some girl he knew from way back when, and/or just some girl walking by.

Girls, you gotta get this.  It's important.  Men get bored with you no matter how hot you are or how good you are in bed.  If you don't change things up for them and dye your hair some new color, change your makeup, dress differently, wear a costume every once in a while, then...he will stray...in his mind or in real life.  Now, men stray for several reasons...boredom and because you are being a real unloving bitch to him. Men are actually quite sensitive creatures.  They really need your gentle touch and smile and feminine energy to keep them happy.  They actually just need your sexual energy.  That is what really gets a man going.  Your radiance is very sexy to a man....a serious turn on.

This is why men love younger women.  Younger women have a natural youthful radiance about them.  Their sexual energy is always on and flowing nicely.  These young things haven't been married with kids, divorced several times, boring career and just tired of life yet.  Life can really drain your radiance girls.  When this happens, doesn't matter what kind of face and body you have, no man will find you that attractive.

What to do?  Well, you always have sexual fantasy man, right?  He can only do so much.  I know.  So, how to get your radiance groove back...several ways.  I will cover a couple here, but this is not an exhaustive list.  Don't laugh, but prayer and meditation is one of the best ways to get that radiance back.  Yes girls!  I know you think I am just crazy for always bringing up spiritual matters and sex.  Well, they go hand in hand.  I am trying to unbrain wash you!

Radiance comes from Spirit.  It's that amazing life force energy that flows through all of us.  When a woman gets in touch with her deep spiritual side and falls in love with her Creator like her Beloved...wow!  You will glow like a radioactive thingy-ma-jiggy!  Breathing while meditating on higher thoughts and spiritual matters will do the same thing.  Breathing oxygenates the blood.  Breathing with purpose to bring more radiance into your body is even better!

Do everything with INTENTION.  I will blog about that important topic later.

Back to breathing. You can breath that Kundalini energy awake by visualizing breathing into the 2nd chakra (orange) that is located right below your navel (belly button for those who have problems locating their anatomy).  This is the sexual energy center of the body...the creative center.  If it is closed, shut down, spinning the wrong direction - then you probably have creativity and sexual blocks in your life.  This can happen for many reasons that I won't go into here.  You know who you are.  I would suggest going to an alternative practitioner who can open and balance your chakras.  You can also do it yourself with intention, focus and meditation.  But if you have never done something like this before, go to someone the first time.  They can teach you.  There is a wealth of knowledge on the internet as well.  Just google Chakras and you will get an explanation about each one and what it represents and how each energy center effects your life.  I will talk more about chakras in other postings.

So, you got your radiance back. Great!  How do you keep it?  Well, don't waste it on men who just want to use your sexual energy as their sexual substitute but are unwilling to commit to you in a real relationship.  Men can suck this energy right out of us.  They thrive on this energy.  It gives them energy and power to conquer their world.  That is why they say that behind every great man is an even greater woman.  There is serious truth to that.  It's that woman's energy that makes that man so great.

So, you give it to a worthy man who respects you and puts you first in his life.

Many men who "play the field" get this energy from those young things they meet.  A man and woman do not have to actually have sex to exchange and give away this energy.  When you are attracted to someone and they are attracted to you, that energy is flowing between the two of you.  If you are on a simple date with a guy and things are going well, you are sending him this energy.  He may or may not be sending it back.  Over time, being around too many men and having them drain this energy from you is exhausting and ages you.  I feel for you girls that have to work with all men.  You are at a big disadvantage in that your radiance is constantly being sucked out of you by all those leering men....especially if you are an attractive woman.

One more way to get that radiance back...spend lots of time in the company of other women...good women who lift your spirits and are spiritual themselves.  Hang out around other radiant women.  Being around the goddess energy will fill you back up with the goddess energy men have drained from you.  Spending too much time with men...even male friends...not good.  They cannot give you that goddess energy.  Find a woman's group you resonate with and get your radiance groove back.

Now you see why men love the idea of harems?  A man walks into a room of young attractive women who think he is attractive and boom...he is hit with all this intense sexual energy.  He is on top of the world...life is good...he can conquer anything.  Where do you think the idea of a "club" came from?  Most club owners are men and their goal is to get as many "hot" girls to their club as possible because that draws in the men who spend the money on the girls to get the sexual energy fix they need and want.  This is the reason porn and topless bars and dance bars are such a big business.  These are all sexual substitutes for men.  Very harmful to men and women alike because they disrespect the sacredness of our sexual nature and they can become addictive.

You are being used at these clubs girls...wake up!  I know they can be fun...just limit the amount of time you spend in those places.  They can be spiritually harmful after a while.

And that is the "naked" truth!

Morning Geek!

I am such a geek! I woke up all excited about the fact that I can text to my blog anytime!

OMG! It's 7am and I am sitting out on my balcony overlooking a sweet greenbelt texting from my phone!

I do have my challenges with texting to my blog...like being unable to add a title. So I will have to go back in and modify later.

And for the purposes of efficiency and timeliness, the rules of punctuation, grammar, and capitalization may be ignored. I apologize now to all you editors out there that hate the bad writing habits texting is developing in our youth. Well, at least you know your jobs are secure for the future!

Okay, let's see if this entry will post as one complete post. You know how texting programs will sometimes cut your long text into several texts. I hate that!

Independence Day Geek!

Saw the 4th of July fireworks on Town Lake in Austin, Tx with a friend. Had great seats right below the fire light show. Going to Opa's for some coffee now at 11PM. Testing to see if i can actually text to my blog.  If this works, dear god!  And yes, I am texting at a fireworks display!  So!

Okay, so that was last night.  I am now editing this post from my computer.  Wow!  I am going to be seriously dangerous now that I can text to my blog anytime, anywhere, for any reason.

Texting friends, it's good bye to all of you.  Thanks for assisting me in my times of boredom and texting me endlessly for hours.  I now have a new love, texting to my blog.  I can text forever!!!!  Oh, the "naked" bliss of it!

Ta-ta!

I Like It Rough!

Don't we all like it rough sometimes, girls? Yep, we do. Why? Some of us just love the drama more than the boy...the man...who ever...I have a girlfriend struggling with this. We like it rough in all kinds of ways. Makes life interesting and not so boring. Gets us out of our heads and into our bodies or vice versa. The feminine loves the dance of being in life and experiencing it even if it is rough at times. But we create it. No one to blame but our own choices.

And then there is the "fun" kinda rough...you know what I mean. Can't play that game with just anyone. That game has to be played with a man you can trust - really trust. Hard to find a guy like that. Most men are just players. You can never trust a player. They will tell you what you want to hear just to play the game. They are out for themselves to get that next sexual high and release. You are just the tool they use to get there. Girls, you aren't tools...don't play that kinda game with a player. You will always lose.

However, if you do find that special man you can really trust, then why not! Experience all you can when you have that kind of connection with a guy. The high you can get from that connection is so worth it. Takes your experiences to a more profound, may I say, spiritual level. Yes, that's right - spiritual level. The sexual connection is the way to experience "god" when the bond is pure and based on love and complete trust. Nothing else like it. Most people are still asleep and haven't realized that the most powerful way to connect with the sacred is through the use of sexual energy. You can even transcend the physical plane during an intense sexual experience. There is a lot written out there about this. This is nothing new or new age. Egyptian culture understood this thousands of years ago. All great civilizations knew this. There were actual temples of worship headed by Priestesses who knew the spiritual art of using Kundalini energy to connect with Spirit through sacred sexual acts.

Our world has been perverted with lies about sex being evil and bad and wrong. Yes, there are instances where the use of this power is abusive...when it is used for selfish reasons where deceit and no love is involved in the union...like sex with a "player" who just wants one thing. This is damaging to you and to him on an energetic and soul level. The sexual act is always sacred, but so many have been made to believe it is not. It is sacred and should be treated as such. To truly receive the spiritual benefits that sexual union has to offer, one must share this act within a loving and trusting union of commitment to one's lover and partner. This act cannot be shared with several sexual partners at a time...it dissipates the energy between everyone and no one benefits. The trust is lost when such an act is spread to several partners. This is why, I believe, most religions state that it is a "sin" to have sex with someone outside of marriage. What they are saying is that this is a sacred act which should be shared with one special soul at a time, not used for selfish purposes...physical highs and releases...at the expense of the other sexual partner.

Men tend to disrespect the sex act more than women. Women need that emotional connection. Men don't. They just need a willing woman. What men don't realize is that they are hurting themselves on a spirit/soul level...and hurting every woman at the same time. One selfish sexual act harms the whole of humanity. Its sounds harsh but true. All choices have a consequence that effects the whole because we are all energetically connected..connected to our Creator. When a man disrespects a woman sexually by deceit...making her believe she means something to him when she really doesn't, he is hurting the feminine goddess that connects all of life. One act feeds more evil acts...this is why pornography, child sexual abuse, sex slavery, and so forth is so rampant. There is no difference energetically between a man who rapes and a man who deceitfully uses a woman for sex. It is all the same and causes just as much damage spiritually to our world.

Women need to stand in their power and not allow this abuse. We are just as much to blame, girls, when we allow ourselves to be used. The sexual act is sacred and we as women are the bearers of this truth. We need to respect our sacred sexual power and only share it with a truly deserving man we can trust who has a loving and open heart. In this way, we are giving light to humanity through each sacred act of sex. The energy that is created, if intentioned well, can heal the world!

If you are in a loving and committed spiritual relationship with someone, use it for the betterment of humanity. Set clear intentions for the love you create with your partner and be of those who send healing energy out to an ailing world.

And if you like it sacredly rough, you go girl!

Ha!

The naked truth girl!

The Naked Friend Thang!

Okay, so I met this guy over 8 months ago. Didn't mean to fall for him. Didn't find him all that on our first date and actually wasn't planning to go out with him again. Then he calls me and we talk and I agree to a second date. There was something about that phone conversation that made me give this guy a second chance. Now, he is a player ladies. Maybe he just knew what I wanted to hear. That is probably the naked truth...but who knows. I think it had something to do with his manly chivalrousness. I got the sense that he would take a bullet for me. He has a strong protection vibe about him that made me feel all safe and cozy. He was the first older man I have ever dated...in his early 50's which is usually out of my age range for dating...but I made an exception because he looked much younger than his age. And upon further inspection, had one hell of a nice body. He lifted weights and took care of himself. So now I don't automatically write off older men if they are healthy and fit.

He seemed into me and by the third date, I was very into him. Many reasons for that...one of which was that he was the first guy I had dated in over 15 years! Yes, ma'am ladies. I was finally getting out on the dating scene since my ex left two and a half years before. I'd not felt like even looking at men much less date one for a long time. It was a huge devastation when my husband left me for a younger and more beautiful woman...but let us not digress.

He liked me and I liked him...things were going well and then I realize that he is seeing other women and sleeping with them! It just made me sick to my stomach and I confronted him and told him that. He did tell me on our first date that he does not commit until he has known the woman for about 6 months. So I struggled through this wanting to see him but knowing that he was also dating other women as well. It was very hard. I had grown to love the guy! It really took me by surprise! My girlfriend had to point it out to me that I had fallen for him! He did feel bad about it because he knew I was a good girl and deserved a commitment from a man. So somewhere in there he cooled off our situation even though I resisted it. It did not cool off my heart desire for him.

It is now 8 months that he has known me...passed his 6 month thingy about committing...and he has put me into "friend for life" category! F that! Ugh! He is not actively dating anymore. Says he is practicing celibacy...not sure if I believe him. He probably is for the most part, but you never know with this guy. He struggles with his passion for beautiful women.

I am making him sound like such a jerk. He really isn't. That is the problem. He is actually a good man with a good heart and a spiritual man. These characteristics are hard to find in men these days. He commands my respect which is hard to do. In fact, I give him a respect I never gave my ex. He was hurt badly in his marriage and is being quite picky and slow about getting into a relationship. He is very ego driven and cares what others think and how they perceive him...so he wants a gorgeous barbie doll at his side. His first wife was a model. Apparently quite gorgeous...but I guess he didn't learn his lesson. He still wants another one. Those kind of women, for the most part, know they can have almost any man so they are very hard to please and will drop a guy in a second if he breaths wrong. Why would any guy want that? Well, I guess for the ego stroke they are willing to put up with the drama and hell of a woman like that. Whatever!

Needless to say...I am not that woman in his eyes! But he does "like" me. Actually, he tells me he "loves" me. That's sweet. Yeah, I love my friends, too. Whatever!

Yes, it stings my ego that I am not that gorgeous barbie doll to him...but if I was...I probably would not be interested in him anyway! ha!

So I go through my moments of just loving him and just hating him for rejecting me. I know he values my friendship. However, I want more than a friendship. I have been so patient and kind with this guy...giving him his space and listening to his dating fiascos and even saving his ass in one situation that could have ended quite badly for him.

And yes, he has taught me a lot about men and the areas where I need to heal and improve. In that sense, he has been a good spiritual lesson for me. He is a blessing in disguise.

My struggle is in letting go of wanting a deep, intimate and loving relationship with him. He has my heart. I have actively attempted to stop what my heart feels, but I can't. As long as I have a connection with him, he triggers my heart. And lately, I have seen and experienced new sides of him that make me fall in love over and over again.

True torture! Torture of the Heart!

I do value our friendship and enjoy my time with him...which is not that often. We do text and talk on the phone every once in a while. I do attend church with him sometimes even though it is not my religion. I enjoy sharing that spiritual time with him. We even prayed together recently which I found very moving. I had never prayed with a man before. It is these deeper qualities in him that tug at my heart on a very deep level.

A friend...a friend? I just have such a hard time accepting that. I know that I need to just release and accept. Easier said than done.

And, yes, I do continue to meet other men and date. However, he still has my heart which makes it hard for another man to come into it. I know that. So it is going to take a very amazing and special guy to break through this heart love I have for this guy. And if that special guy does come along and makes me release my love for this other guy...then he is a keeper!

I know something divine is going on here...I probably need to just move out of the way and let it happen as it may. You never know. Stranger love stories have happened.

And that's the naked truth!